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Old 04-06-2010, 06:58 AM   #1
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Is there a little room?

Does RYL have a little room?
Like a place to act little and be treated little with the same sort of idea as the safe room?



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Old 04-06-2010, 07:04 AM   #2
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As far as I'm aware, it's simply the Safe Room for that. It is in the Abuse and Bullying support forum, because having part of the self frozen in a childhood state is common in survivors of any kind of abuse [and indeed trauma of any kind]. Personally, to have it also in another area I don't think would be suitable. Acting little can be counter-productive to recovery, whereas being stuck at times of dissociative flashbacks etc in a walled off childhood state and really feeling that age is different - but needs to be carefully handled. Any good therapist takes care to understand those feelings and attend to them in a reparative and healing way, but takes care to ensure the person doesn't identify that as all of them or overly romanticise that in any way.
Our inner children/child alters need a safe, containing, understanding place. The Safe Room provides that. The wider RYL community might not always be accepting our understanding of such vulnerable etc states.

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Old 04-06-2010, 09:07 AM   #3
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ahh, have a look here http://www.recoveryourlife.com/forum/showthread.php?t=42123&highlight=griddlebone

I knew something like this was buried somewhere!xx




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Old 04-06-2010, 09:24 PM   #4
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Thanks for bumping it Liv - Im sure it will help a lot of people :) x






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Old 04-06-2010, 10:55 PM   #5
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Aww thats ok :)

I had one of those moments where I knew it existed but couldnt find it and then I doubted its exsistance lol!xx




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Old 06-06-2010, 06:08 PM   #6
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Thanks for bumping it! That's just what I was looking for. =]



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