I have chronic Depression. I took an O.D. 3 months ago and as a result was admitted to hospital
I'm currently on a 2 night leave from a Psych Hospital here in South Wales ( My first 2 nighter ) , I've been in hospital for 85 days , its been exuasting , tiring and very boring but I am only a couple of weeks away from discharge if all go's well , * Crosses Fingers * . I met a wonderful Girl , she is the same age as me and we have become a psdeo couple on the ward , ( Relasionships are frowned on ) but I LOVE this girl and its my very first relationship . Could anyone give me any advice please .
On how to handle this relationship and on coming out of hospital into an enviroment where I can S.I. ( Although I'm currently out of blades their not hard to come by ) , I only S.I. 'd once on my first leave but that was a month ago ,and generally how to cope in the outside word please.
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Last edited by squirrelspit : 30-07-2009 at 11:42 PM.
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As for the relationship...it will be harder outside the hospital as well... trying to be strong for both of you and constantly worrying about the emotional status of your love and yourself can take a toll.
Be careful is my advice. Sorry if this isnt what you wanted to hear.
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Last edited by Rain Keeper : 31-07-2009 at 08:03 PM.
i beg for this type of help... you had better try and think about getting help over over the SI. IT IS NOT GOOD FOR YOU!!!!! Doikers, I am going thru a bad tiff right now.... this hurts me.... DON T LEAVE IF YOU CANT NOT HARM!!!!! PLEAS#E!
i am not the right person for giving the advise right now, but after being in patient and still not finding ways to cope or still feeling that you still need it,,,, i dont think they are helping to the full extent.
now yes, i have not been in the hospital setting since i was a teen...20+ years ago... but it helped for a long time... i just got bad these last 5 years... cant afford the meds or some of the other stuff that comes with getting help. I have a husband , a teen, and preteen kids. get the help now. please, do what tyou can now 1
Also, I know this may not help but when you get out of hospital you can also stay in touch with this girl and see how things go. Often feelings are heightened in places like hospitals so it may be on the 'outside' you don't quite feel the same way but you might do so try not to worry about this at the moment and just try to focus on getting better. Spend the time with her in hospital and things but try not to focus on what will happen when you leave because no-one can really tell and you don't know until you leave; hopefully you will feel better able to cope and you will stay in touch with the girl and things will go well but you've just got to wait and see.
I would try and discuss how you are feeling in terms of SI with the staff at the hospital. Really they should be helping you to find other ways to cope so you don't feel you need to cut; that is one of the main reasons you're there, to get better, not just to give you an area for a while to force you not to do things because all that will lead to is you leaving and getting back into the same habits. It may also be worth you writing down your feeling when you feel triggered. It helps some, not others, but it can help you to get these out and not feel as bad about them and they my not feel as intense that you need to cut. Remember, this will not solve anything in the long run, it is only a temporary release and an unhealthy one at that, but if you get the help you need in the hospital and learn new ways to combat your feelings that can be there for a long time to come, maybe even forever and so you will no longer require these short term releases as you have ways of coping which mean you can get through without resorting to these and also feel better in general and that is what your hospital should be aiming for. If they're not or if you feel it is not helping you when you go out from there for periods of time then you need to discuss this with them as often being back in your home environment can make things worse as all the emotions that lead to you getting worse with your depression will often be focussed around things there or memories you may have which may be triggered by things in or around your home environment and these also need to be looked into.
i didnt fall in love romanticly with anyone while i was in hospital but i made an extremely close friendship and i did and still do love that person. relationships where frowned upon too and so when the staff found out we had been texting exch other and meeting up during our leave we got mixed reactions from staff. although we never actually told the staff they just guessed mainly. but anyways i personally think the thought of disobeying the rules made our relationship stronger and once we had both left the intensity of the friendship clamed down abit, so i went from seeing her everyday during my leave to just once a week. but i still see her and she is still my best friend and i still ove her to bits and couldnt live without her our relationship has changed over time. but i think you have to expect that. you relationship will change but its just how you deal with that.
sorry if ive rambled i know my situation isnt that muuch like yours i just thought id share...feel free to ignore me
Thanks for all the advice guys , I Have been a month without S.I. now and have meds ( Diaz ) that I can take and new friends I have made who I can chat with if I feel the urge to S.I. Also I'm still very much in the mental health system , and being helped professionally specifically regarding my S.I. :)
Last edited by Doikers : 04-08-2009 at 07:33 PM.
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