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Old 31-03-2021, 05:51 PM   #521
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Old 31-03-2021, 07:59 PM   #522
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Old 05-04-2021, 04:38 PM   #523
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my mom told me on thursday while we were out to lunch that she wants guardianship of me and i dont want her to have that because my therapist makes me feel like that is a bad thing and also i have talked to the boss of the group home about it and basically he said that doing that would be taking away the decision making aspect of my life..........



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Old 05-04-2021, 11:53 PM   #524
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Have you considered allowing your therapist to talk to your mom? If your therapist thinks it is a bad thing, she might be able to explain why to your mom and maybe get more information from your mom as to why she wants to do that so that you and your therapist can discuss it. You'd likely need to sign a release if you haven't done so already, and in doing that you can absolutely specify things that you are not comfortable with your therapist talking to her about. Obviously you don't need to do this - it's just an idea.

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Old 06-04-2021, 01:59 AM   #525
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i honestly dont know what my therapist thinks about it......... but she always saying when i do stuff wroung that i'll get my guardianship taken away from me she basically useing it as a upcoming punishment...........



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Old 06-04-2021, 02:27 AM   #526
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i sent my therapist a email earlier today about it but she still hasnt answered me back......



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Old 06-04-2021, 03:44 AM   #527
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I don't think it's meant to be a punishment though I can imagine it might feel like it. It's more about your safety and well being. If you aren't making choices to keep yourself safe and healthy, then it makes sense they would want someone who can. Talking with all of them, especially if you can talk to them together, might help clarify things for you about what they need to see from you and what you need to do to help stay your own guardian. Have you asked what they need you to be doing to stay your own guardian? Maybe you can ask for it in writing if you are unsure.

Also it was a holiday for a lot of people/places today. So it's possible your therapist was off. You might want to clarify with her when you email how long you should expect a reply to take. I know I don't always get same day replies from my therapist. It might take a few days, or it might just be that they want to wait to discuss it during session too.



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Old 07-04-2021, 04:14 PM   #528
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i'll talk to my mom about it....

she was busy she emailed me yesterday she is going to call me friday at 3:00



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Old 09-04-2021, 09:01 PM   #529
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Just talked to my therapist…..it was horrible... I didn’t really get any real support ….. I wish CR were my therapist because she truly accepts me for me…. she understands me my therapist doesn’t do that at all!!!!!!!!


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Old 09-04-2021, 11:13 PM   #530
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Who is CR?

What did therapist say that upset you?





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Old 10-04-2021, 12:37 AM   #531
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a friend that i talk to through e-mail she is AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!.....



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Old 10-04-2021, 01:41 AM   #532
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I suppose the issue is that friends and therapists have different roles. We tell friends things we maybe wouldn’t tell a therapist, and vice versa. And therapists often push in ways which may be uncomfortable because they are not emotionally involved and are acting on evidence based practice. I think both are important though. I think if CR was your therapist you likely would have a very different relationship.

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What support are you expecting from your therapist?

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Old 11-04-2021, 05:30 PM   #534
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not what she did............ her whole entire approach was making me like i was not understood at all........



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Old 11-04-2021, 08:30 PM   #535
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what does she have to do differently for you to feel understood?
I understand how hard it is to think that nobody understands you.

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Old 11-04-2021, 09:19 PM   #536
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talk about the issue instead of changeing the topic around and stop pointing the finger at me (blameing me) and let me talk out the issue instead of changeing the topic........
thank you..... CR understands.... she may only be 17 and has no licensing schooling but.....she does a better job at talking to me then my therapist ever did........



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Old 11-04-2021, 09:30 PM   #537
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As others have pointed out - therapists and friends have very different roles in the way they support us.

What has she said that makes you feel like she is blaming you?
Keep in mind that just because she says something she doesn't like doesn't mean it's not worth listening to.

Changing the topic and not letting you talk sounds frustrating, but it is part of her job to make sure your time is used in a constructive and helpful way. So maybe sometimes she feels it doesn't benefit you to have a discussion on certain topics?
Might be a good idea to tell her how you feel next time you see her and maybe just ask her very directly why she changes the topic?

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Someone who is 17 is a minor. You need to be very, VERY cautious of any friendship with someone of that age given you are an adult. Just given that alone, I can't imagine that being any type of healthy friendship. Especially if you're seeking any type of support from them.



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Old 11-04-2021, 11:17 PM   #539
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I think I may be misunderstanding but are you saying that she doesn’t let you discuss your issues?

The relationship with a therapist is very different to a relationship with a friend. Did the therapist outline what you are supposed to be doing in these sessions? Because I wonder if that is why she isn’t addressing the issues you think are urgent and she needs to address. It may be worthwhile going over what is expected from these sessions.


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Old 13-04-2021, 04:36 PM   #540
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she did but only a little bit........

no not really......



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