Yeah just to update, there are other people who can help with the appeal, student support and this other person who my HR guy told me about.
Lindsay, the place where we live is not adapted and I can't really wait to move now. It's affecting me really badly. Some friends (including Jenna) have helped me see that's It's an abusive situation at home. I'm having a housing assessment over the phone tomorrow and then we'll have to go from there.
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Good luck with the housing assessment today, I really hope it goes well and gets things moving. Please let us know how you get on if that's ok. Good luck with your appeal too.
I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
Thanks Lindsay. I think I missed their call unfortunately. I have to call again tomorrow. Also my concern is packing stuff. I have bought things like clothes and toiletries and they don't fit in my bag now, and as a wheelchair user I can't transport them easily
You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you wish to make.
Hope you get to speak to them today and that there is good news!
In the short term if there's no one you know in the area who might be able to help you move your stuff, could you just do two trips? I know that's not ideal and I hope that maybe the council would be able to offer some assistance!
Yeah Jenna that does make sense! Thanks, don't know why I didn't think of it!
You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you wish to make.
I don’t know if this is the case in England (don’t know why it wouldn’t be!) but here you can apply for moving costs, furniture etc to help you get set up, I’ve done it a few times. The furniture etc isn’t exactly good quality but would be better than nothing. I’d ask your housing person what kind of things would be available, because even if the above isn’t a thing in England there will be something I’d imagine
Thanks Ali, currently someone from social services is trying to find me somewhere to stay tonight. I had a gentle chat with my mother and finally it's gotten to the stage where she understands I need to move out. I'm pretty proud of myself for having that healthy conversation with her.
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Hi everyone.
I've been given a place to stay for a week in a Bromley Travelodge whilst they look for accommodation for me. I have at times gone to see my mother and it has felt weird. It makes me not feel well. It upsets me but I can't put my finger on why. She doesn't think I'm capable and she still thinks I need looking after, which so many parents are like so I don't understand why I it makes me so tense.
You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you wish to make.
I think some parents and children find a balance, where parents feel valued and involved, while children feel competent and confident. When physical and mental illnesses are involved, for SOME PEOPLE this is harder. But I don't agree with the MH trope that families with illness involved automatically have dysfunctional relationships.
There's a difference between needing help and needing controlled and decisions made for you. Our mom definitely takes over instead of tries to help and it's very upsetting for us. Maybe that is similar for you?
Really glad you found a temporary option to at least get out. That sounds so incredibly stressful. Sending all the good vibes for you for safe, accessible housing quickly.
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You can't always keep it separate.
This is happening, this is part of you.
I agree with Camden, it sounds more like a controlling and suffocating relationship and I'm really glad you are now managing to take action to hopefully get away from that. How do you feel when you're doing things without that suffocation?
I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
Tamo - That's really wise and yeah I think the balance is a bit skewed in my family but yeah the trope is just lazy and potentially damaging.
Camden thank you, it's validating to hear that it also feels upsetting for you although I'm very sorry you're feeling similar. Yeah it feels upsetting to me and it has for years but it felt "wrong" to be upset. Surely I was being loved so I should swallow that upset? Maybe that upset suggested there was something wrong with me? I know now that I always had a right to listen to my feelings. Being controlled to the point that I was 'being made to feel dependent on another person, being made to feel incapable without them' is considered abusive by the Domestic Violence website. It some ways that feels right but also feels weird.
To reassure you I am being housed in a very nice hotel until accommodation is found for me and it feels warm, safe and secure. I'm happy here for the time being.
Lindsay suffocation is a good word. I feel like I can breathe now you know? Because I have to take care of my own needs I'm realising that I deserve to take care of them. I felt dead because I wasn't human. I haven't felt that here yet. I'm not saying I won't ever feel that again but I feel human right now. I feel human.
I'm sad. I couldn't do my job because I wasn't human. As a human I could do this job well. I need them to see that.
You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you wish to make.
maybe feeling safer and more secure will mean being human is more possible more consistently and make the job more doable?
its not wrong to be upset about the way you were treated. just because someone cares about you doesnt mean they treat you well, and it's not any reflection of you doing anything right or wrong. if it were, surely if you acted "better" you would have been treated different. and it sounds like you have tried that with no change. so it cant be you.
thinking of you.
Please do not give me virtual hugs unless you are only using the hug function on threads. Thanks.
You can't always keep it separate.
This is happening, this is part of you.
I'm struggling a bit today. I'm appealing my assignment results and I've spent ages writing this email to my manager and it's taking so long and I'm waking up late like I used to do when I was depressed and it's hard to focus
You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you wish to make.
Sorry to hear you're struggling. Is it just today you've been feeling like this or longer? What's making it hard to write the email to your manager? Are you overthinking what is the best thing to say? I know it is an important email though. Has anything safe helped when you've felt depressed before?
I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much.
Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass.
Yeah, just not sure what to say, not sure how to make it 'perfect'. I know there is no such thing as perfect but the more time I spend on it then I can delay it going out in the ether I suppose.
I've just got to stick to routine I think. Get up at the same time Take meds (I do take my meds but I take them in the evening when I feel more up to it rather than in the morning when really it's a morning med)
The wheel on my wheelchair has come loose so I can't leave the hotel right now and my social hasn't got back to me to confirm if my stay here has been extended so I might have to leave on Monday
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You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you wish to make.
