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Old 06-06-2021, 12:29 PM   #1
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Can bpd go away?

First of all, not been on here for a very long time (found it to be a little triggering at times) - so apologies for not being there to help anyone, and still expecting help.

So, i was diagnosed with borderline couple years back. I didnt agree with their diagnostic method, an assistant? met me, asked couple of questions and the psychiatrist who never met me diagnosed me. Never thought I had it and also my GP at the time didnt agree with the diagnosis. I chose to ignore it. No one needed to know and I did what I had to do to feel better. And it worked. I've been self harm free for at least 2 years, perhaps 3 - not kept track. I don't have low moods often, and panic attacks are rare.
I recently registered to a new GP practice and was looking through my medical records. It said emotionally unstable personality disorder. Status: active. Now, i never though i had it in the first place. But how do i convince my new GP to remove it, or change the status to past? My question is, if I have BPD, how come I've been doing so well for nearly 3 years? Can bpd just go? Or did they get it wrong? I always thought my 'issues' were a result of the abuse I suffered and once I dealt with them I was able to recover. I don't think I had bpd. I want it to be removed from my records. How do I do this?

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Old 06-06-2021, 07:37 PM   #2
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Unsure re the records thing, but I do know that it is pretty common for bpd to lessen in intensity over time, typically as one gets older. So it is definitely possible for it to lessen in intensity enough to no longer meet criteria for a diagnosis, or for one to learn how to cope with it on their own.



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Old 06-06-2021, 10:07 PM   #3
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I don't know what country you're in, but here in the UK it seems like to get a BPD diagnosis you can either undergo a lengthy and in depth assessment by a specialist or you can see a random professional with a lot of opinions for a few minutes and they decide you have BPD based on very limited information. I know which one I'd give more merit to! So first of all, I'd suggest trying to challenge the original diagnosis- maybe you could speak to your GP and ask how it got onto your medical records and whether that is a legit way for it to have got there. Maybe there's a chance the 'active' could be removed based on it not being a proper assessment in the first place?

If the diagnosis stands, then yes, I think it is possible for it to be 'undiagnosed'. I know I was offered the chance to go through the assessment (the lengthy and in depth one!) again several years after diagnosis to see whether I still met the criteria. So by that it seems like not everyone regards it as a permanent lifelong diagnosis, and even if you did have it, it's fully possible that if you were assessed again you may no longer meet the criteria and I guess that means it could be changed from 'active' on your records.

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Thanks both!

Im seeing the GP next week. It's over the phone - which might be tricky for me. In the meantime I am trying to get as much research in as possible to present a strong case. My only concern is that the GP may not be as experienced in mental health or completely dismissive. It was very hard getting these appointment so I feel i cant be too picky.



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Old 16-06-2021, 09:44 PM   #5
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Good luck with the appointment!



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Would it help to write it out in advance what you want to say to them and what outcome you would like from the appointment? Maybe if you explain that if they can't do anything, you would like a referral to someone who can, or... something else if that's not what you want?



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Thanks PiR^2.
That's a great idea auror. I will write it down.
The appointment is tomorrow. I am pretty nervous. Thought about cancelling it but having the diagnosis removed is very important to me.



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I dont think it went well. Was a very brief phone call - 3mins max.
Was told they'd refer me to a psychiatrist but it's unlikely i'd get to see one. And that's it. She hung up. Was very rushed. I don't even trust she's done anything. I will possibly chase it up in a month.



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Old 23-06-2021, 06:13 PM   #9
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That's incredibly frustrating. Definitely do chase it up.



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Got a letter from the mental health team. They will not be accepting my referral. Which is fair considering how the pandemic must have impacted their services and the number of people with severe mental health issues who would require more urgent help.

I guess my issue is that because of this diagnosis I am reluctant to get any help in the future. I still suffer have the occasional thought of suicide. I can distract myself and my mood isnt continuously low. It's more of this feeling that death makes sense and will make everything better - even though im doing ok. IF things get bad and i'm not doing ok, I probably will not get help because in the past i've experienced so much negativity because of the diagnosis. Mental health nurses have made me feel like i was doing it for attention. That was a couple of months after being assaulted. Of course I wouldn't have told them that because they had made their minds up already.



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Old 12-07-2021, 06:50 PM   #11
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Oh that's a shame that you weren't able to speak to a psychiatrist. I really hope you will manage to get help in the future if you need it, though I completely understand having had bad experiences and being very reluctant. If there does come a time when you end up under the mental health team because things have got worse, hopefully then you'd have a proper chance to challenge the diagnosis.



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