To be fully honest here, it sounds like someone else being your guardian might be a good thing. It doesn't sound like you really understand how a lot of things work, and could really use the support with making decisions and choices.
As has been said multiple times before, looking into advocacy might be a good option for you, so that you can make sure your wishes are understood and taken into consideration while guardianship occurs.
I'd guess that your place in the group home is covered by government vouchers (ID/DD and/or medicare/medicaid), and that would also cover treatment like therapy too. So it's unlikely the boss of the group home is the one paying for it, but they might also have contracts with specific organizations about what therapists can see their residents, and or what therapists take the type of voucher you have.
That said, part of working with a therapist is working through difficulties with them. That way you can work out together if it is no longer a good fit for them to remain your therapist or not. Because if it isn't in your best interest and isn't a good fit anymore, a therapist is ethically required to refer you to someone else. So your best bet is to continue to communicate with your current therapist and see if that is the best option to move forward. They're the ones who can better advocate for the change than just you alone.
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You can't always keep it separate.
This is happening, this is part of you.
Tbf Luna that was suggested several months ago in this thread. But I echo what you're saying. Alternatively find another group home with less strict rules. I get that they have to have rules but it seems to be too restrictive for some reason such as checking your laptop/taking it off you because you were unwell and didn't get up in time. You are an adult not a child and deserve to make your own choices.
in the past i had asked the boss if there was a way that i could contact a advocate and he said that he is my advocate
ive been reseaching other places to live but i didnt find any that i liked
just another floating iceberg in this ocean we call life...….
Am I a failure from birth
Is misery what I deserve
Am I just so void of love
That I'm never good, never good enough
~citizen soldier-never good enough
To be fully honest here, it sounds like someone else being your guardian might be a good thing. It doesn't sound like you really understand how a lot of things work, and could really use the support with making decisions and choices.
As has been said multiple times before, looking into advocacy might be a good option for you, so that you can make sure your wishes are understood and taken into consideration while guardianship occurs.
I'd guess that your place in the group home is covered by government vouchers (ID/DD and/or medicare/medicaid), and that would also cover treatment like therapy too. So it's unlikely the boss of the group home is the one paying for it, but they might also have contracts with specific organizations about what therapists can see their residents, and or what therapists take the type of voucher you have.
That said, part of working with a therapist is working through difficulties with them. That way you can work out together if it is no longer a good fit for them to remain your therapist or not. Because if it isn't in your best interest and isn't a good fit anymore, a therapist is ethically required to refer you to someone else. So your best bet is to continue to communicate with your current therapist and see if that is the best option to move forward. They're the ones who can better advocate for the change than just you alone.
im sorry.......
ive tryed..
i have no idea but..thats what the boss said....
i have asked for another therapist and the current one said that she will be my therapist untill the boss said that she wont be because the boss pays her she said that the state doesnt pay for it he does
just another floating iceberg in this ocean we call life...….
Am I a failure from birth
Is misery what I deserve
Am I just so void of love
That I'm never good, never good enough
~citizen soldier-never good enough
It might be worth googling whether there is a Center for Independent Living in your area. If there is, they may be able to help connect you to outside advocacy services or another therapist. They help people with all sorts of disabilities access support and services that they need. Typically they will list on their website what types of supports and services they provide, and then you can write them an email both inquiring about any services but also if they can point you in the right direction for anything they don't offer.
When you ask for things, how are you asking? Are you going in with a list of reasons and examples explaining how/why things are not working, and why a change would be helpful? Or are you just going in and point blank saying you hate your therapist and want someone else?
Do you know what kind of insurance you have? Because if you know what kind of insurance you have and/or voucher you have, you can look for another therapist that would take the same. I guess it's possible you might still be on your parent's insurance, in which case the person in charge of the group home might be paying copays etc. from funds that you have. Which still wouldn't be the same as the person in charge paying out of their own pocket.
I agree that looking up a CIL or advocacy services on your own might be a good idea. You clearly have internet and email access to do so.
eta: You said your mom would be your guardian, right? It sounds like from what you have said in the past you have a good relationship with her. You could also try asking her to help you connect with advocacy services or a CIL in your area so that you can make sure your needs and wishes are being taken into consideration during the guardianship process.
Last edited by Auror. : 18-04-2021 at 12:04 AM.
Please do not give me virtual hugs unless you are only using the hug function on threads. Thanks.
You can't always keep it separate.
This is happening, this is part of you.
It might be worth googling whether there is a Center for Independent Living in your area. If there is, they may be able to help connect you to outside advocacy services or another therapist. They help people with all sorts of disabilities access support and services that they need. Typically they will list on their website what types of supports and services they provide, and then you can write them an email both inquiring about any services but also if they can point you in the right direction for anything they don't offer.
ok i will
just another floating iceberg in this ocean we call life...….
Am I a failure from birth
Is misery what I deserve
Am I just so void of love
That I'm never good, never good enough
~citizen soldier-never good enough
You like writing, right? Maybe instead of just saying things point blank if you want them, it might help you to write out letters explaining your reasoning and why. I think if the group home staff understood your reasoning for wanting the changes, they might be more willing to listen and take what you are saying into consideration, versus just going in and making point blank statements. Because that isn't an effective way to communicate.
Please do not give me virtual hugs unless you are only using the hug function on threads. Thanks.
You can't always keep it separate.
This is happening, this is part of you.
I think for the journal, it is just any type of text document where you can write down what happened during the day and how it made you feel.
It is somewhat like a rant thread on here maybe, and not to different from what you are posting on this thread i.e. you would write down what you wrote in your last post and maybe a little bit more detail about why you feel that way and what those dark thoughts are.
This can be helpful for seeing how your mood fluctuates over time and *if* you write down what causes you to feel upset/angry etc it can make you identify triggers for feeling bad.
And that can help you develop coping mechanisms etc that are healthier than the ones you are using atm.
im VVVEEEEERRRRRRRYYYYYYYYYY triggered right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! how the staff think that just because theyre staff that they can rule over me with my own laptop is messed up its NOT THEIRS AT ALL WHATS SO EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!! the group homedidnt pay for it i did with the stumis money that i got!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
just another floating iceberg in this ocean we call life...….
Am I a failure from birth
Is misery what I deserve
Am I just so void of love
That I'm never good, never good enough
~citizen soldier-never good enough
Curveball
i just want to stop living!!!!!!!!
