my therpist hasnt told me any rules regarding emailing her so far but i will ask about it when we talk tommorow
I think that's a sensible response. That way it will help your anxiety if you know you are getting a reply after 3 pm or just on a Wednesday for example.
BTW I meant your email was inappropriate timing wise not what you said just to clarify.
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I think that's a sensible response. That way it will help your anxiety if you know you are getting a reply after 3 pm or just on a Wednesday for example.
BTW I meant your email was inappropriate timing wise not what you said just to clarify.
I also dont think the email timing was inappropriate unless it has previously been discussed. Most professionals would rather clients addressed any anxieties or asked, as a part of open discussion. It is up to the therapist or professional to set those boundaries and expectations. If there has been no such discussion then I see no harm in asking a question 24hrs later.
Dark wings, I think having a discussion with your therapist around those rules and also the feelings you experienced when you sent both emails would be helpful to you both.
I think that's a sensible response. That way it will help your anxiety if you know you are getting a reply after 3 pm or just on a Wednesday for example.
BTW I meant your email was inappropriate timing wise not what you said just to clarify.
ok i'll try
ohh ok!!
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there might not be rules about you emailing her, but she might have rules or might be able to set some rules about when and/or how often she replies, so that you aren't left worrying and waiting. like i said, that's fairly standard.
you may also think about when you send emails whether it's something that you would like a response to before you speak/meet next, or if it's okay to wait until then. sometimes just saying, "i wanted to send this to get it out but do not require a reply, it can be discussed when we meet next" tells them they don't have to respond. where if you are actually wanting a response, you might say that. if you are constantly wanting replies in between sessions, you would want to clarify how often and/or when you might be able to get a response, as that isn't something most therapists have unlimited time or ability to do.
it's also something to consider where if you're constantly wanting or needing replies more often that it might be worth bumping up your sessions to be more often. i'm glad you're making more of an effort to communicate and reach out to her. it sounds like she's being really good and helpful and kind to you.
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there might not be rules about you emailing her, but she might have rules or might be able to set some rules about when and/or how often she replies, so that you aren't left worrying and waiting. like i said, that's fairly standard.
you may also think about when you send emails whether it's something that you would like a response to before you speak/meet next, or if it's okay to wait until then. sometimes just saying, "i wanted to send this to get it out but do not require a reply, it can be discussed when we meet next" tells them they don't have to respond. where if you are actually wanting a response, you might say that. if you are constantly wanting replies in between sessions, you would want to clarify how often and/or when you might be able to get a response, as that isn't something most therapists have unlimited time or ability to do.
it's also something to consider where if you're constantly wanting or needing replies more often that it might be worth bumping up your sessions to be more often. i'm glad you're making more of an effort to communicate and reach out to her. it sounds like she's being really good and helpful and kind to you.
ok i agree
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i talked to my therpist and she said that that i am making a good decision in reseaching the places and stuff like that and i also talked to her about the rules of emailing her and she said that things that are personal she will relpy to my email that she will call me and we would talk about it by phone
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Am I a failure from birth
Is misery what I deserve
Am I just so void of love
That I'm never good, never good enough
~citizen soldier-never good enough
i talked to my therpist and she said that that i am making a good decision in reseaching the places and stuff like that and i also talked to her about the rules of emailing her and she said that things that are personal she will relpy to my email that she will call me and we would talk about it by phone
Well done for talking to her about it- did she say roughly when you can expect a reply if you email between sessions?
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honestly im not doing good at all..... i broke the sink ( punched the faucet off)because i was thinking of all the sh!t that my cousins put me through (lied and said i fell and broke it on accident lucky they believed me) and i self harmed two days straight
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Yesterday cc had a lot troble moving she screamed a lot in pain (like a lot) and the staff didn’t do much of anything when she fell and stuff then I heard that the boss of the group home is thinking about putting her in a nurseing home and that her family isn’t going to vist her and shell lose all of her friends and stuff like that (they (her family and her) were talking on speaker phone when this went on) I tried to talk to the boss of the group home about it but he said that I couldnt go with her even if I tryed my hardest to because im too high functioning and young im 29 (shes in her 50s or something close to that) (I really REALLY don’t feel right abandoning her in a nursing home like that) then last night cc fell in the bathroom and peed while she was on the floor and she screamed and cryed while the staff kept on yelling at her to get up and didn’t try to help her I woke up sometime around 12:00 am (I don’t have a clock in my room but I knew the time because the 12am staff came on duty because I heard them and saw them in the bathroom with cc yelling at her to get up) to her screams of pain and the staff said that they were not going to help her that she was going to lay on the floor in her own urine
I really feel stressed out I wanted to self harm this mouring but I as opened up the drawer that had the tools in it staff came into the kitchen so I had too close it they still don’t have a clue why I was crying standing in front of the drawer (they knew why I cried but not the other part) I tried talking to the boss of the group home about it but then he got angery about it and said that I was pinning him against his staff and for me to go sit down later on I then acted like it was good between us and that I was somehow okay but I still need to self harm!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Reason: added more....
just another floating iceberg in this ocean we call life... .
Am I a failure from birth
Is misery what I deserve
Am I just so void of love
That I'm never good, never good enough
~citizen soldier-never good enough
my therpist called and towards the end i had to stop talking to her because the staff didnt like what i had to say (i tryed to go to someplace alone so that i can talk to her but everytime the staff came in and told me to go sit where everyone was at)
just another floating iceberg in this ocean we call life... .
Am I a failure from birth
Is misery what I deserve
Am I just so void of love
That I'm never good, never good enough
~citizen soldier-never good enough
CC is in the hospital right now she had surgery on her Gallbladder the boss of the group home said she be there until tomorrow or on Wednesday but he doesnt know yet......
just another floating iceberg in this ocean we call life... .
Am I a failure from birth
Is misery what I deserve
Am I just so void of love
That I'm never good, never good enough
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