Concerning ranting threads

The Worst Witch · 13-02-2021, 04:00 PM

I pretty much read everybodys ranting threads on this site because I’m a nosy bastard, so I want peoples opinions.

Do you feel comfortable with someone pming you to ask if you’re okay if they read something concerning, or would you prefer people to not bother you? I always tend to message people, but I recently started panicking people don’t like it

one_step_closer · 13-02-2021, 04:04 PM

I wouldn't mind a PM usually but if I feel like I can't interact I just say so. I have sent PMs based on R/Vs before but I know some people don't like getting PMs.

Cacoethes · 13-02-2021, 04:07 PM

I think it's nice to get a pm.
Shows people care
I know some don't like pm's though

nonperson · 13-02-2021, 05:39 PM

I also don't mind getting PMs at all. I do understand it feeling awkward though, like it could be over stepping boundaries or something.

Darkwings44 · 13-02-2021, 06:10 PM

i love PMs and i 100% agree with cacoethes it really does show people care!!!

not_so_insig · 13-02-2021, 07:45 PM

I dont mind pm concerning my rants.

Auror. · 13-02-2021, 07:53 PM

I think it would depend. If it was from you or someone I've interacted with on here, I wouldn't mind. But if it was from someone random I've had zero interaction with or very little interaction with I would probably panic. That said I'd probably still panic anyways. That might not be useful.

Pi.R^2 · 13-02-2021, 08:19 PM

I only learnt recently that some people regard it as generally socially unacceptable for people to "reply" to rant threads by PMing, because if they wanted a reply they'd have made a support thread? Though I don't think it's always as simple as that because people might not want to make a thread and I know I would always be OK with receiving a PM about my RV. And judging by the responses here, I'm not alone in that!

So I've kind of toned down my enthusiasm for doing so, but I haven't ruled it out completely as an activity. And I guess if someone didn't like it, they could just not reply and you'd probably get the hint that they weren't keen?

Also, fun fact: I've genuinely read every post on every rant thread since about 2013 or so. It's become something of a compulsion and I don't think I could ever stop now!

Darkwings44 · 13-02-2021, 08:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Pi.R^2

Also, fun fact: I've genuinely read every post on every rant thread since about 2013 or so. It's become something of a compulsion and I don't think I could ever stop now!

you are awesome!!!!! *hugs youuuuuu*

EyelinerAndCigarettes · 13-02-2021, 10:02 PM

Another one that doesn't mind getting PMs, I think it's really kind.

Pi.R^2 · 13-02-2021, 10:42 PM

I sense a poll is needed here...

The Worst Witch · 13-02-2021, 11:44 PM

Yes, a poll! I did see the option to post one, but on my phone it wouldn’t let me make one :(

one_step_closer · 14-02-2021, 12:45 PM

I think PM is ok but maybe definitely not mentioning R/V things in someones support thread if they have one since then it would be public.

Pi.R^2 · 14-02-2021, 10:24 PM

^ooh, I hadn't thought of that! I've seen people do so before and it's clearly well-intentioned, but that's a good point and we should probably be careful and not mention specfics.

Pi.R^2 · 14-02-2021, 10:25 PM

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Originally Posted by The Worst Witch

Yes, a poll! I did see the option to post one, but on my phone it wouldn’t let me make one :(

Well, let me know what you want as the question and what you want as the options and I can add one #modly powers

Pomegranate · 14-02-2021, 11:53 PM

‘Should there be MOAR lesbians?’

I think that’s the most important question. And maybe an option to contact said lesbians.

The Worst Witch · 15-02-2021, 12:28 AM

Rusty spoons (even though salad fingers scares the crap out of me)
Moar lesbianz
It does bother me
It doesn’t bother me

I think wr can safely say most people are ‘t bothered and I was just being an awkward turtle, lol.

Pi.R^2 · 15-02-2021, 07:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Pomegranate

‘Should there be MOAR lesbians?’

I think that’s the most important question. And maybe an option to contact said lesbians.

Let’s be real, I was going to add that as an option regardless

And ta-da! One poll! Get voting folks.

Unbreakable. · 15-02-2021, 11:52 AM

I love attention so I am always down for getting a PM regarding my woe, especially if it is someone I am reasonably familiar and comfortable with!

As someone who has received such a message from you I really appreciated it and thought it was super sweet!
Ignore what Jenna said about not getting a reply being a hint to not message that person- I get somewhat flustered about the notion that people read my drivel and potentially even care about it. So it can be a bit overwhelming (in a good way!).

Unbreakable. · 15-02-2021, 11:55 AM

Also, can we make that into "MOAR Non Heteros" to be MOAR inclusive?
I am by far not a lesbian, but definitely down for same-sex canoodling.