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Old 24-02-2021, 08:20 PM   #1
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too old?

im 29 and today while talking to my mom on the phone about my SH she said "you want us to treat you like a grown up but you do stupid stuff like this! grown ups dont do this kind of stuff"

am i too old to self harm?



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Old 24-02-2021, 08:25 PM   #2
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Last time i checked there wasn't an age limit. I'll be 40 this year and i self harm. A comment like that is actually quite an immature comment from someone who hasn't really bothered to even try to dig a little deeper into the issue.

To be fair, sometimes it's just one of those arrogant/borderline abusive comments that ignorant people throw around like confetti. My mum says something like that a lot too. So maybe it's a mum thing????

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Old 24-02-2021, 09:32 PM   #3
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I'm 37 and still self harm. And have known of people much older who started well into their late adult lives too.

Unfortunately it is something that is mostly associated with teenagers but that is really not the truth of it. People can still feel the same emotions whether they are 16 or 60 and the reactions to those emotions can sometimes be the same regardless of age whether that is self harm or something else.

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Old 25-02-2021, 01:27 AM   #4
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thank you all!! <3



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Old 25-02-2021, 11:14 AM   #5
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Nonperson speaks wise words. I am currently self injury free but when I did do it I was in my thirties. I know someone who is nearly 40 and still self injures. So like it has been said you're never too old.



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Old 03-03-2021, 10:16 PM   #6
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i was 17 when i started......



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Old 05-03-2021, 10:59 PM   #7
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I was a teenager when I started, but 36 when I last self harmed. It's a stereotype that it is only teenagers who self harm, there are a huge number of adults who self harm and a good number of them would have started it in adulthood. Self harm isn't childish and does not mean you are immature or less grown up than anyone else your age.

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31years old here. Self Harm isn't a phase or Hobby, Unfortunately for some people it's a method of coping we struggle to stop using even as adults when we know it's not healthy or socialy acceptable. Many of us did start in our teens but you don't just grow out of it you have to learn to use other coping strategies, and that's really difficult when your instinct is to use what's worked for you.

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true very very true
even my therapist implys that gown people dont self harm....



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I was a teenager when I started, but 36 when I last self harmed. It's a stereotype that it is only teenagers who self harm, there are a huge number of adults who self harm and a good number of them would have started it in adulthood. Self harm isn't childish and does not mean you are immature or less grown up than anyone else your age.
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Old 06-05-2021, 03:23 AM   #11
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I'm 34. I started when I was 13. It's not as frequent as it use to be but when it happens now it's a lot more serious. I know it's not a healthy coping skill but it is unfortunately one I go back to when my ptsd and depression are super active. My partner doesn't understand at all. It felt like there were a lot more resources available when I was a teen. I was told most people 'grow out of it' unfortunately I'm not one of those people



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Old 07-05-2021, 01:47 AM   #12
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im not one of those people ethier......



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Old 08-05-2021, 08:59 PM   #13
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for me, the issue isn't other people telling me i'm too old to do it. no one in my personal life (at this point) knows i still do it. i think my mum thinks i quit over a decade ago and i've long ghosted all my friends and exes that knew.

my issue is thinking i myself am immature because i haven't stopped. i see people around me who've moved on in life, yet i've been doing this thing for over half my life. it's like i'm either holding onto it because it excuses the lack of progress in the rest of my life, or the lack of progress is why i can't stop. i remember when i reached the halfway point a few years ago i nearly lost my mind realising how much time i'd wasted on this crap. the only real thing that's changed is frequency.

to answer your question though, no.

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