I used to be popular. Then I found my voice, more of my own individuality. Then I became less popular. That's how I see it, anyway. I have a few folks who know me and who I know, and who still care and respond. But things changed. I changed. People change. Life is change.
I don't know. I've been around a fair few years and I still manage to post threads that don't get replies.
I'm so sorry to hear this hon, I would personally never ignore a thread of yours even if just to say hugs and I care! In the future if you want a reply feel free to pm just saying 'I have a thread in x about x would you mind taking a look?' or similar, okay?
But on a general note I find people just plain don't always see the threads people make. I for one am not likely to come every forum and sub-forum just in case someone I know might have made a post. If I see it, I reply, if I don't, well my apologies. I also accept this with my threads. If I'm struggling and there are no replies and I think it's just because my friends haven't seen it, I'll drop them a casual pm along the lines of 'If you're in a good head space would you give this a nosy, if not no worries', sometimes they say no, sometimes they say yes, depending on their mood, and I do the same for them.
'Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.'
['There is only one thing we say to death. Not today'.']
'We are each our own devil, and we make this world our hell. Oscar Wilde
Its hard to dance with the devil on your back. Sydney Carter
I understand it's human nature, but I just find it rather unfair, and a little bit upsetting sometimes. Especially when it was really hard for me to write and ask for help.
I try to be active in the forums, get involved with some group room threads, and try to integrate myself in the community, but I still feel like quite an outsider and nobody really recognises me. I might just not be trying hard enough, or just generally not any easy person to talk to, but I seem to find myself getting in to the mindset that I don't get many replies because people don't know me.
I just find it rather unfair, and a little bit upsetting sometimes.
Maybe people don't know how to reply? Or that 1 reply has said everything possible? And then people think 'well, I have nothing else to say other than *hugs* which is a pointless reply'...
Even just something along the lines of "*hugs* I hope you feel better soon, remember it will pass" is helpful, at least for me, when I'm at my worst, and if nobody has any advice. Even just one reply is reassuring to me.
Even just something along the lines of "*hugs* I hope you feel better soon, remember it will pass" is helpful, at least for me, when I'm at my worst, and if nobody has any advice. Even just one reply is reassuring to me.
hi i totally agree with u.. i dont post much caz most of time not even worth it. i think people here reply to the popular ones caz they make bulshit threads.. and no i dont find those people part of community caz the community should be the ones that are actually here to get support and not to spam forum in my opinion. i reply to a thread even if i dont know the person and if i have something constructive to say... take care :)
hi i totally agree with u.. i dont post much caz most of time not even worth it. i think people here reply to the popular ones caz they make bulshit threads.. and no i dont find those people part of community caz the community should be the ones that are actually here to get support and not to spam forum in my opinion. i reply to a thread even if i dont know the person and if i have something constructive to say... take care :)
^^"Bulshit" threads in the support forums or "Bulshit" threads in GC?
I agree, it isn't constructive, but if somebody is in a really bad place and feeling alone, and nobody has any advice, even just that would help. At least in my opinion.
Even if people don't know how to help me, it's reassuring to know that they hear me. They know I am reaching out for help, and they are there to support me, and they're not going to leave me.
I agree, it isn't constructive, but if somebody is in a really bad place and feeling alone, and nobody has any advice, even just that would help. At least in my opinion.
Even if people don't know how to help me, it's reassuring to know that they hear me. They know I am reaching out for help, and they are there to support me, and they're not going to leave me.
Doesn't help me.
Its not useful.
And can often come across as patronising.
Agreed. Getting 'hugs' and 'have a cuddle' replies (unless I've made a 'give me sympathy please' thread) make me feel worse... because i feel like i'm so ****ed up even fellow crazy folk can't help me.
or ur really dumb or an incredible bitch! unfortunately i spent my time with u sometimes but i wont anymore. btw people with this type of mods here OF COURSE neither chat nor forum will work properly.
