Originally Posted by
gypsyroselee
if you want to look at her wall and stuff find out your bf's fb account details and just log in as him when he's not there.
or create a fake fb account and add her as a friend.
that will definately help.
This will not help.
This will invade your boyfriend's privacy. If he finds out, he won't trust you. There's no relationship without trust.
Okay, so, as I was going to say, I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. I do this. My current boyfriend was with his last girlfriend for two years, and I can't quite stop checking over her facebook. Annoyingly, her facebook isn't entirely private - I could see her wall.
However, I've managed to make myself feel better about the whole situation by telling myself one main thing: She's an EX. You're the GIRLFRIEND. If she was so brilliant, he'd be with her.
So what if she's pretty? I know when you find out that your boyfriend's ex was perfect in some way that you feel you're flawed, it hurts. But trust me, looks aren't everything. A guy may look at a girl and think, yeahh, she's hot. But someone being attractive can't make a relationship work. Maybe, as Bleeding Angel said, she isn't that great as a person. She may be shallow, or difficult to get along with. Maybe they just weren't in love. Whatever the reason, he's not with her anymore. He's with you. Maybe you need to look at the reasons why he's with you - you're his girlfriend, he must like you!
Secondly, as to his writing about her. If he's writing an autobiography, it's going to mention other times in his life. It will hurt to read about someone he used to be in love with - note that I say used to, remember, she's the ex for a reason - and he may think fondly about their time together. EXAMPLE: my exboyfriend cheated on me FOURTEEN times. FOURTEEN. I'd rather cut my own legs off than get back with him, but I still think fondly about the time that we spent together.
Not only will it hurt to read about that, imagine how you'd feel if you read that they used to do something that you considered "yours"? If you found out that she liked a band that you like, or she watched a film with him that you love? It will ruin something for you. It's happened to me, one of the girls that my ex cheated on me with was into one of my favourite bands. I found out on myspace, and couldn't listen to them for months.
Seriously. Just remember that YOU are his girlfriend. That means he wants to be with YOU. If he wanted to be with his ex, then she wouldn't be an ex.
Take care x
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