i dont know what to do anymore :/

[donovan216]

hi im new here but have been going through so much it all started when i lost my grandma on december 15 this year ever since everything has slowly been going downhill for me i lost my job of 2 years in march then april i met a wonderful girl who was 5 years older then me and showed me what it was like to be respected and treated like an actual person then after 3 months of dating/talking i slipped and told her i loved her and then a couple weeks later she stopped talking to me and she told me she felt i was rushing her into a relationship even though she didnt tell me what was wrong and i still cant get over her to this day and i defended my feelings against many of my friends for telling me im dumb for liking her so much or she is one of those girls who just wants attention not a relationship and she meant alot more to me and because of that i have lost alot of friends and caused alot of drama because i felt like i was getting attacked and cornered for how i felt about her and i snapped and said alot of things i didnt mean but a person can only handle so much and it hurts to lose so many people over one little thing and now everyone thinks i need to be in a mental hospital because im so depressed over losing her i just dont know what to do anymore im literally at the end of my rope cause i cant find a job i almost lost my car 2 days ago and im so stressed trying to fix things with my friends cause they were all i had and i need that in my life

[Margo]

WOAH!!! Thats one helluva sentence!!! *breathes*

thats a lot of pain and sorrow to go thru in such a short space of time. It sounds to me like probelms were eveloving/happening way before this girl came on the scene and she was less a possible partner but more the answer to all your woes? Perhaps thats why you fell so hard for her and thats why its hit you so incredibly hard after she left?

You need to go get some help. you need to talk to the doc if you havent already and explain all this.

I dont know your history or anything about you but as you are postin on this site im assuming you self harm/have self harmed or are either thinking of doing it or worried about relapsing?

You sound hypersensitive too right now and all seems too much to take.

Get on the phone and call the doc.

good luck!!!

[88shelz]

it seems to be when bad things happen they do happen in threes ...or more.
i dont really know what advice to give you - heartbreak seems to be the hardest thing to go through ever. all the other problems just add to the difficulty of getting through each day.

keep thinking positive and reminding yourself that better days will come!

[pea soup]

hi there,
and welcome to vets :)

ok, first off, i think you need to make an app. with a psych. let them know what's going on and how depressed you feel.
basically just unload on them so they have all the info they need.

and after losing a loved one, its natural to want to find someone to feel the void. maybe thats what you did with the girl. and instead of it being just a little "sting", it was a huge "bite"!! i hope you understand what im saying.

please call a doc and let us know how things go.
xxxxx

[donovan216]

so i went to a doctor about my issues and they basically gave me a perscription and told me to wait it out and it will get better i feel like i just got ripped off and not helped

[Margo]

I think what you did was quite brave actually. Im really pleased you went to the doc. Im pleased he gave you a prescription. I hope you take it!

Many of us go to the doc the first time and get a less than sympathetic response. The fact is that the docs are either too busy or simply arent trained enough to give advice.

the drugs can help stabilise your mood but it wont solve the problem.the real healing comes from talking and working through the emotion. Perhaps there are help lines in your area you could call?

If you do call i really would recommend writing some things down first. Its easy to talk to someone forthe first time and seize up and not know what to say or to even talk at 300000 miles an hour and be completely incoherant. So make a list of things youd like to say and how you feel. Write down moods and thoughts.

I hope you find a sympathetic ear.

take care!

[misskitty112]

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Originally Posted by ninjapenguin

I think what you did was quite brave actually. Im really pleased you went to the doc. Im pleased he gave you a prescription. I hope you take it!

Many of us go to the doc the first time and get a less than sympathetic response. The fact is that the docs are either too busy or simply arent trained enough to give advice.

I agree with this. And meds are a fantastic step. They won't "cure" you, but they will help.
Do you have a counselor or a place where you can get counseling? I think talking about these things can really help.
I know where I live, there's a mental health clinic for people who are students/uninsured/unemployed/etc. It's where I go and they have psychiatrists to do the medicines and counselors and substance abuse groups and other types of group therapy. If you have something like that, please go, it's really good and you get someone to talk to.

Good luck, and if you need anything, please do not hesitate to PM me!

[donovan216]

every app i have made has been a waste ive tried multiple places and they all give me the same run around why do people get paid to not help you ugh it makes me angry they just sit there and look at you like your dumb

[clj]

It can be very frustrating trying to find the right therapist but once you find one you connect with it will be worth all the hassle. Keep looking don't give up your worth the effort