The short answer is YES, you are loved.
<hugs, support and kind thoughts from me>
One of the most useful things I ever learnt from my wife/separated partner/sort of ex-wife was the massive difference in how men and women think (men are from mars, women from venus).
Men are practical, women are emotional.
You (probably) want to be listened to, to talk, to be supported.
He wants to solve things. He wants to make things better, NOW. He wants to do things.
From my point of view, as a martian man, I can see why he's done this. It is a sensible solution and may help to solve the "problem".
What it doesn't do is to address your need for emotional support. I think your probably wrong in how you're viewing this, as I don't think (from my point of view as a man) that there's any intention on his part to upset you, to stop loving you. He just wants to solve the problem.
However, you still NEED and DESERVE love, hugs, support and complete unfettered worship. What he doesn't realise is that you need love and support as much (if not more) than you need solutions.
It's just his way of dealing with things. That's all.
He needs to realise what you want and need, but you also need to realise how he thinks and what his coping/problem solving mechanisms are.
Hope this helps. I'm certain he loves you.
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