I think that defining things is overrated. But if you really want to figure it out, I'd say just watch TV and write down who you find attractive (and their gender, obviously)... then count up how many guys and girls - if it's all guys you're straight, if it's all girls you're gay, and if it's about half and half, you're bi (and if you want to get really fancy, you can add things like "bi-curious" or "hetero-questioning" or stuff, wherever you think they should fall). But yeah, I guess the point is just that I don't see much point in trying to define it more than just a statistical statement of who you're most often attracted to...
BTW, you can feel "repulsed" by homosexual contact even if you're "really" bi or gay (defined by who you find attractive), because people often learn to be somewhat homophobic (not necessarily to the point of being prejudiced against others for the behavior, but more of like it's sort of viscerally repulsive to think of doing it yourself even if you're fine with it in principle), which can sort of compete with the desire to have homosexual contact even though the desire may still exist. Of course, you can also be repulsed by sexual contact with someone simply because you find them sexually unappealing, so I definitely don't mean it to sound like I'm questioning Raven's beliefs about her own sexually or anything, I just wanted to mention that for other people reading that or whatever to give a different perspective on that point...
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