In a way I'm like you. I'm quiet and reserved. My closest friends are all female and I feel more comfortable around girls. I'm not overly into sports such as football or rugby. I'm not misogynistic and while I drink beer, I don't drink to the point of being totally intoxicated.
Whether I'm a man is probably a different issue to yours as being 18, there's still some boy/man transition going on but overall I'd class myself as a man.
To me, though, a man is simply a male human. What makes you a man is that little bit missing from your chromosomes that makes XX into XY. Masculinity is not the same as manliness in my mind. You don't have to be macho to be a man.
You may not fit that macho stereotype because you are caring and sensitive and that lager swilling, woman chasing, arrogant, yobbish stereotype simply isn't you. Your personality and what makes you you on an individual level is simply that - your personality. To me, being a man is something far less specific than what activities you partake in, what interests you have or what company you keep. Such individual aspects of your personality help to define you as a person but you as a man is already decided by virtue of biological structure. You are no more or less a man than anyone else with an XY chromosome.
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