Thanks you guys. It really does help. =]
Originally Posted by
Pinkunicorn123
Hey, sorry it took so long to respond, i was reading through the thread you link and kept on being interupted, but i got there in the end :)
Looking after people can be a tiring and emotionally draining job, so i completely understand how you feel. Sometimes we want to do so much for people to help them and make their lives better that we end up neglecting our own.
Have you tried looking into charities for carers? There are some services that offer a respite not only for people like your mum, but also the people that look after everyone. Its a chance to take a break and to meet others in your situation. I think that might be a good thing for you, so you can see first hand that there are others in the same situation. The charity can provide additional support for you as well as looking into government grants or aides that can help you handle things a little easier.
Have you asked your counsellor for 'tools' to be able to handle things, because it does not sound like their pointing out the obvious is remotely helpful for you right now.
I realise it can be tough sometimes, but for what its worth, i think you are going an excellent job. It took a lot of courage to tell your friend that there is only so much you can handle right now. It was a brave thing to do, and although you may feel like you have let her down, it was the right thing to do for YOU, and that's what matters.
PM me any time, im usually around, incase you need someone to be there for you for a change - because ryl is :)
As far as other resources and getting help, Yeah, I've looked at the different charities around here and my counselor has offered to put me in touch with a good social worker she knows, if I want. It's just with all the budget cuts and services being cut, there's just not enough people willing to do this kinda of thing anymore. The state won't pay for us to get anymore help than we already have, and we definitely don't have the money to pay for it ourselves. So unless my roommates (who are moving out of state in August) help me with my mom, I'm kinda stuck. =/
EDIT: I just posted this in another thread and thought it should go here too.....
"At school today when my counselor asked me how I was doing, I actually answered honestly and said I was having trouble. I didn't try to hide it this time. I told her that I 'screwed up' last night, and even though she knew what I was talking about, she made me say it. I didn't realize that actually having to verbalize that I cut to someone was gonna be so hard. But I did it. I just wish I never would have told my mom I started talking to her, because I've taken so much heat for it. It's like my mom is ok with me doing whatever I have to do to get better as long as it doesn't involve other people. Which is crazy. I can't do this alone. I've needed outside support for years and I finally got up the courage to seek it. What is the problem with that?"