OOOOh! That so sounds like my mother. I call her by her first name to put some perspective on things. Julia has arthritis from the hips down. Emotionally she is about 11. The only time I hear the words please or thank you from here is when she is reminding one of us to use them.
Ask her to prioritize what she wants done, explaining that you have your own job and your own obligations and that there is no way you will be able to do it all. She will have to accept that the assistance you can give her is limited.
If she will not change her attitudes and behavior you'll have to change yours. Yea I know it is awful. You can't take care of both of you. She is an adult and it is her job to take care of herself and her chores and her surroundings.
I've finally had to walk away from my parents. I hope it doesn't get that bad for you.
PM me if you want to talk about it!
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