OF COURSE you are going to flinch. You have suffered trauma from this previous relationship and therefore its going to take time until you regain ALL your trust.
Its been said and i totally agree with Katie that rather than get angry give yourself some compassion. Its incredible that you are starting to trust again so soon. Thats worthy of compassion towards yourself. accept tht you get the flinches. Accept that its going to be a while till they go. But dont shout at yourself. tell yourself its ok. With each day your assurance will increase.
With a little love and time you can beat this!
Take care
Matthew xxx
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