hello, i can totally relate to your girlfriend sorry! my boyfriends libido is low as he smokes too much green! and because my sex drive is either through the roof or non exsistant im always the one initiating sex, and if i dont we dont have itl im incredibly insecure and think it is because he doesnt like me anymore, but i think the thing is that i have turned sex into the only thing intimate that we do, and therefore the only proof that he can stand the sight of me! personally i know i need him to do sweet things for me, you know silly romantic things, like occasionaly give me flowers for no reason, or take me out to dinner, to be honest its got to the point where im pleased if he'll sit on the sofa and watch telly with me! i think its just taking the time out of your day to do something nice, something intimate, something that shows you care. obviously this has to work on both sides! but i know to show him i care, and to proove to me he still likes me i only offer sex now. sorry if this makes no sense, just wanted to maybe give a point of view your girlfriend like me is suffering from!
and being long distance can work, me and my boyfriend did long distance for 2/3 years, it takes effort, but because he made the effort i think i was happier then i am now! he used to send me random things, even like a t-shirt he saw and liked for me. like everyone else has said, just do random affectionate things and hopefully it will help her self esteem.
sorry this is so long and garbled!
hope my point of view helped even ever so slightly!
all the best!
xxx
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