Ask him to tell you, or just make it clear when he's going to touch you. You don't need to react or do anything, but it won't come as a surprise and you'll get used to the contact, over time things will change.
It could be simple things; in the examples you've given he could say-
"Your hair's in your eyes. Let me move it for you"
"Come here, I want to kiss you"
This is a natural, learned, pavlovian response to the fact that in your previous relationship you were hit so often that you now equate unexpected and sudden hand movements with being hit.
You CAN change that association given time.
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