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blondiebear · 11-05-2008, 03:20 AM

Some people won't understand. For them and the way the see life you just do your best and pull yourself up by your bootstraps.

I think that the public is gradually learning about Self Harm with the publication of a couple of books about it. I don't know what to do about the age awareness though.

If love were enough to stop people from harming themselves, it would be enough to stop people from drinking and drugging too.

I'm just trying to educate the people I see at AA meetings. I can't talk directly about it at meetings, AA has customs about singleness of purpose and that is what has kept it going for so many decades. But I talk to my friends and trusted aquaintences in direct terms and I've developed a couple of code terms to use when I'm sharing in an AA meeting. I'll talk about destroying myself or about imploding.

My friends in AA know that I've combined the idea of the chips in AA with the orange and white bracelets for SI awareness. I made my own bracelet. Sorry folks, I was traveling when I decided I wanted one. Anyway what i do for myself is for every month I don't SI, I take an orange bead out of the bracelet and put a white one in in its place, then just string it up with new elastic. I can show that to my friends in AA and if I go back to all orange I show that to them too.

My husband has an antenna ball on our SUV/4x4 that looks like a clown, it is from a local take out chain. One day the clown had an orange ribbon scarf and once he realized that it was my doing, my husband thought it was fine.

I guess I'm trying to talk about Self Harm to people who understand it, understand the feelings being too intense, and who just deal with it/dealt with it in a different way. I hope that will serve.

11-05-2008, 03:20 AM	#6
blondiebear Bringing back the lost art of Sewing Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: California Confusion I am currently:	Some people won't understand. For them and the way the see life you just do your best and pull yourself up by your bootstraps. I think that the public is gradually learning about Self Harm with the publication of a couple of books about it. I don't know what to do about the age awareness though. If love were enough to stop people from harming themselves, it would be enough to stop people from drinking and drugging too. I'm just trying to educate the people I see at AA meetings. I can't talk directly about it at meetings, AA has customs about singleness of purpose and that is what has kept it going for so many decades. But I talk to my friends and trusted aquaintences in direct terms and I've developed a couple of code terms to use when I'm sharing in an AA meeting. I'll talk about destroying myself or about imploding. My friends in AA know that I've combined the idea of the chips in AA with the orange and white bracelets for SI awareness. I made my own bracelet. Sorry folks, I was traveling when I decided I wanted one. Anyway what i do for myself is for every month I don't SI, I take an orange bead out of the bracelet and put a white one in in its place, then just string it up with new elastic. I can show that to my friends in AA and if I go back to all orange I show that to them too. My husband has an antenna ball on our SUV/4x4 that looks like a clown, it is from a local take out chain. One day the clown had an orange ribbon scarf and once he realized that it was my doing, my husband thought it was fine. I guess I'm trying to talk about Self Harm to people who understand it, understand the feelings being too intense, and who just deal with it/dealt with it in a different way. I hope that will serve.
	My husband is my best friend. In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.