I'm a woman who was sexually abused, and I think it's at least partly because of that that I prefer not to wear skirts or dresses. I feel more vulnerable in them, like it's easier for someone to get to me. And I feel more feminine in a way that doesn't feel good, like I'm putting myself out there to be looked at in a sexualized way. So you're not alone at all. And also, I think it's totally acceptable to insist that you're more comfortable in pants. Lots of women prefer that for many different reasons, and there's no reason you can't look just as nice or dressy in pants. Good luck with your mum.
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