I think if you cannot cheer yourself up, that is depression, as in, depressive illness. The point is, normal people get sad, but they get on with things because thier mood is not so low that they cannot make themselves feel better. Feeling sorry for yourself is ok. It means you're hurting and you feel sympathy towards yourself because of that.
If you really are down and cant cheer up and dont know why, that can feel like you need to "just cheer up" or "just stop feeling sorry for yourself" but thats the thing about depression - you CANT. I think in recovery theres a stage when you feel a bit better but its so unfamiliar you almost want depression back, and that point you do have to persevere and take a day at a time, but telling yourself to stop feeling sorry for yourself isn't helpful, if you're that miserable, you deserve to feel bad for yourself, you need to let yourself feel what you feel and then you can let it go. Its when you stop letting yourself feel anything that the problems REALLY start. Being gentle to yourself is important.
I really think you should talk to somebody about this.
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