Heya there *Cuddles you* im sorry to hear that your suffering with flashbacks. I think that the doctor you saw was extremly out of order for saying what she said. She should not have said that at all. Both these links are about how to cope with flashbacks and has lots of tips and advice
http://www.survivorsswindon.com/flashbacks.htm
http://www.mental-health-matters.com....php?artID=154
Im really sorry for all this pain that your going through. i cant begin to imagine how hard this is for you. Please remember that we are all here for you and that you dont have to go through this on your own. You really dont deserve any of this at all. Please keep talking to us. Look after yourself.
Take care best wishes Ian