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Pointless · 12-06-2007, 06:08 PM

OK. So this may be long and may not make sense but please bear with me.

So, I'm friends with this guy and I knew from the third day I met him that he was interested in me. Fair enough. I went back to his flat that night and we had a nice, if somewhat weird, night. I didn't sleep with him considering the fact that I was in complete and utter shock at the whole situation. I acted like a dumbass.

Still, time goes on and I carry on speaking to him on MSN. He explained that he was not looking for a relationship because of his health problems (and later on admits that he didn't want to hurt me since he's unable to stay faithful).

For a long time after I feel really hurt but I also understand and eventually things get back to normal. I meet him for a coffee, we chat, it's fine. Then I decided a few days ago that it would be nice to meet up again so I ask.

We arrange to meet the next day and after walking around for a bit go back to his because it's bloody roasting and we had no suncream. Anyway, not long after we get back he starts coming on to me again. He explained again when I got there that he wasn't looking to be with me. And I was OK with that. So we stay in the rest of the night and I slept with him. Woke up this morning feeling OK still. Went home, still fine. Right now, still fine.

So, what I'm getting at is - does this make me a bad person? That I'll just sleep with this guy, a friend? I don't feel that we really did anything wrong, no one was forced into anything. A little voice at the back of my head though is telling me that I'm a whore. That I'm too easy. That I just fell so easily because I'm desperate for someone to be loving and caring.

I'm also worried that he didn't mean some of the things he said about me. He probably says them to everyone to get them into bed. I hate the thought that he's lying. I don't imagine I'll get the truth if that's not it.

I don't know. In all I have no regrets and I know that he's not looking to make this a habit but that he's also not ruling out doing it again. If it's OK with both of us then does that make the situation all right? We're being careful about it.

I'm such a freak for sleeping with any willing guy. :(

Edit: I meant to put this in the GS&A forum. Oops.

12-06-2007, 06:08 PM	#1
Pointless Calamity from the Skies Join Date: May 2004 Location: Scotland I am currently:	*ADULT?* OK. So this may be long and may not make sense but please bear with me. So, I'm friends with this guy and I knew from the third day I met him that he was interested in me. Fair enough. I went back to his flat that night and we had a nice, if somewhat weird, night. I didn't sleep with him considering the fact that I was in complete and utter shock at the whole situation. I acted like a dumbass. Still, time goes on and I carry on speaking to him on MSN. He explained that he was not looking for a relationship because of his health problems (and later on admits that he didn't want to hurt me since he's unable to stay faithful). For a long time after I feel really hurt but I also understand and eventually things get back to normal. I meet him for a coffee, we chat, it's fine. Then I decided a few days ago that it would be nice to meet up again so I ask. We arrange to meet the next day and after walking around for a bit go back to his because it's bloody roasting and we had no suncream. Anyway, not long after we get back he starts coming on to me again. He explained again when I got there that he wasn't looking to be with me. And I was OK with that. So we stay in the rest of the night and I slept with him. Woke up this morning feeling OK still. Went home, still fine. Right now, still fine. So, what I'm getting at is - does this make me a bad person? That I'll just sleep with this guy, a friend? I don't feel that we really did anything wrong, no one was forced into anything. A little voice at the back of my head though is telling me that I'm a whore. That I'm too easy. That I just fell so easily because I'm desperate for someone to be loving and caring. I'm also worried that he didn't mean some of the things he said about me. He probably says them to everyone to get them into bed. I hate the thought that he's lying. I don't imagine I'll get the truth if that's not it. I don't know. In all I have no regrets and I know that he's not looking to make this a habit but that he's also not ruling out doing it again. If it's OK with both of us then does that make the situation all right? We're being careful about it. I'm such a freak for sleeping with any willing guy. :( Edit: I meant to put this in the GS&A forum. Oops.
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