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blondiebear · 28-01-2008, 02:14 AM

I'm not saying this to be mean, i'm doing it to help you!
Among other things, i'm a teacher so...
Here comes an example in the form of a lecture

I have a friend who put up with years of abuse from her husband. Beatings, rape etc...Their children often witnessed what happened. And her son has bad asthma.

Then one day her husband threw their son against the wall. She left with her two small children, one suitcase and less than $200.
Since then she's had money problems. But she doesn't have bruises. Her son seldom has asthma attacks because he doesn't have the emotional trauma of seeing his mom beaten up or having to worry about when would it be his turn.

Her new husband, when he married her, added to the ceremony that he'd take care of her kids, and still does, even protecting them emotionally from the bio-dad.

No one deserves a beating. It was not your fault. Beating your head against the wall could have caused you brain damage or death. It will not be long before he starts in on your baby.

Lecture over. Now here's your "homework." You're not going to like this assignment.

Get out of there NOW. Before he KILLS you or your BABY. Go to the home of a friend. Go to a shelter. Call the police. Take photos of your bruises and cuts and any other injuries.
Please get out and take care of your baby and yourself.

Hugs, Susan

28-01-2008, 02:14 AM	#15
blondiebear Bringing back the lost art of Sewing Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: California Confusion I am currently:	I'm not saying this to be mean, i'm doing it to help you! Among other things, i'm a teacher so... Here comes an example in the form of a lecture I have a friend who put up with years of abuse from her husband. Beatings, rape etc...Their children often witnessed what happened. And her son has bad asthma. Then one day her husband threw their son against the wall. She left with her two small children, one suitcase and less than $200. Since then she's had money problems. But she doesn't have bruises. Her son seldom has asthma attacks because he doesn't have the emotional trauma of seeing his mom beaten up or having to worry about when would it be his turn. Her new husband, when he married her, added to the ceremony that he'd take care of her kids, and still does, even protecting them emotionally from the bio-dad. No one deserves a beating. It was not your fault. Beating your head against the wall could have caused you brain damage or death. It will not be long before he starts in on your baby. Lecture over. Now here's your "homework." You're not going to like this assignment. Get out of there NOW. Before he KILLS you or your BABY. Go to the home of a friend. Go to a shelter. Call the police. Take photos of your bruises and cuts and any other injuries. Please get out and take care of your baby and yourself. Hugs, Susan
	My husband is my best friend. In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.