Originally Posted by
[Purple_Rain]
i'm from near bridgend (the area these poor 7 peopel were from) and one of them was a freind of a freind, and i've seen the effect it had on her. i think that for the ones who knew each other, they probably had anothers suicide as a contributing factor.
i odnt think its Bebo's fault. i dont think its anyones fault entirely, but as i dotn know their situations i cant really comment.
but i nearly flipped out at my brother. he knows i cut. but when he heard a story on the news about this, how it could be a cult, his reply was '****ing emo's'
i walked out the room.
I was reading on one of the sites belonging to girl to see if anything stood out. The place the kid and her friends was from seemed nice enough and it seemed most of them had nice homes/clothes etc. One girl was beautiful. The impression I got was that these kids were sort of immature in a way I see with some kids who are comfortable in some ways (don't want to say "spolied" but I almost did) but have no real sense of who they are at all.
The way they wrote/commented made them sound like 12 year olds who - when posting (using glitter and such) about the gals death sound as if they think she was taking a nap. There was lots of text/rap type talk and quite a few of the girls seemed to be boasting (a bit crudely) a lot about their "sex appeal" - whether they actually had any or not.
I didn't see all the kids involved but the ones I did see just seemed to surrounded by an environment/culture that was strenuously trying to tell them who they were in a counterfeit way - and under circumstances where they were never made to feel valuable and in touch with who they were inside themselves. So its as if a storm of bad information was swirling around outside them while a hole was growing inside them - and some collapsed like a can that had the air sucked out. Some were sort of oblivious to the full situation since they didn't realise what they were missing - having never had what they needed in the first place some didn't have a sense of even losing anything .
I saw some people already blaming the kids "brains" (" you cant fix these things its in their heads" was one comment). The "counselors" are in papers saying part of the cause is "stigma" and kids need to feel free to come out and talk about suicide. I didn't see much "stigma" concerning suicide. Unloved kids left to try and raise themselves is what I was seeing so far.
Oh and there was the mentions of the "step parents" which always says a lot right there.
Edit:
I came across an article from last year describing South Wales teen suicde being higher than other places:
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/wales/4673920.stm