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blondiebear · 19-01-2008, 05:03 AM

It is okay to not be around this person. She is using you. I understand being that lonely too.
Pray for her and her dad or send them healing thoughts or whatever variation of that works for you.
Care for yourself enough to not cut yourself.

I had something similar happen around a year ago. First I cut myself for the first time in 3+ years. Then I had an attack of PTSD and ended up shoving away someone who was trying to hug me when I was trying to run away to clear my head, she didn't know i have PTSD. Then a mentor fired me because she was afraid for her physical safety. Finally I realized how the mentor had been using me and I emotionally "resigned" from what I thought of as her nursing staff. I got to go back to an old mentor too. I'm still fighting SI but I have a better sense of who my real friends are.

Care for her at a distance but Please give yourself the gift of time away from this poor lost user of a person. Take care of yourself.
How may I help you?
Hugs!

19-01-2008, 05:03 AM	#4
blondiebear Bringing back the lost art of Sewing Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: California Confusion I am currently:	It is okay to not be around this person. She is using you. I understand being that lonely too. Pray for her and her dad or send them healing thoughts or whatever variation of that works for you. Care for yourself enough to not cut yourself. I had something similar happen around a year ago. First I cut myself for the first time in 3+ years. Then I had an attack of PTSD and ended up shoving away someone who was trying to hug me when I was trying to run away to clear my head, she didn't know i have PTSD. Then a mentor fired me because she was afraid for her physical safety. Finally I realized how the mentor had been using me and I emotionally "resigned" from what I thought of as her nursing staff. I got to go back to an old mentor too. I'm still fighting SI but I have a better sense of who my real friends are. Care for her at a distance but Please give yourself the gift of time away from this poor lost user of a person. Take care of yourself. How may I help you? Hugs!
	My husband is my best friend. In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.