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Seraphsigh · 13-01-2008, 06:47 PM

I know how it feels to feel like a burden. But here's a little anecdote for you. A few months ago, I had another big run-in with my mentor, who is like a father and is of course the first person to feel the brunt of my emotional "catastrophes". Anyway, he came to a meeting with my therapist and I (NOT my idea), where he basically said that he was worried and why don't I tell him anything, just cry and be cryptic. I said I didn't want to be an emotional burden and unload more things on him. He said he would really like it if I was more of a burden so he could really understand what was going on!! He told me that he wants me to unload on him, to trust him. Because then he can understand better and stop worrying about me so much.

I know that was about me, but it taught me a great lesson. Sometimes we think that we are too needy but really are so guarded that people are confused or don't notice. Maybe you should be more of a burden and see what happens :).

Sorry you're in a small rut. Get out of it, you have the power! What an accomplishment, going for 41 days without SI. I'm proud of you.
Don't hide within yourself (like I'm one to talk) because it just makes things worse in your head. PM if you want to talk, but talk to the people that mean something to you. Don't be afraid.
*hugs*

D'

13-01-2008, 06:47 PM	#5
Seraphsigh Jeder Engel ist schrecklich Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: US I am currently:	I know how it feels to feel like a burden. But here's a little anecdote for you. A few months ago, I had another big run-in with my mentor, who is like a father and is of course the first person to feel the brunt of my emotional "catastrophes". Anyway, he came to a meeting with my therapist and I (NOT my idea), where he basically said that he was worried and why don't I tell him anything, just cry and be cryptic. I said I didn't want to be an emotional burden and unload more things on him. He said he would really like it if I was more of a burden so he could really understand what was going on!! He told me that he wants me to unload on him, to trust him. Because then he can understand better and stop worrying about me so much. I know that was about me, but it taught me a great lesson. Sometimes we think that we are too needy but really are so guarded that people are confused or don't notice. Maybe you should be more of a burden and see what happens :). Sorry you're in a small rut. Get out of it, you have the power! What an accomplishment, going for 41 days without SI. I'm proud of you. Don't hide within yourself (like I'm one to talk) because it just makes things worse in your head. PM if you want to talk, but talk to the people that mean something to you. Don't be afraid. hugs D'
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