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Hey seamonkey ... welcome to RYL!

I'm really sorry that you ended up cutting due to the intense pain you've been feeling since your partner betrayed you.

Your partner cheating on you has really got to hurt so much, and I am so sorry that this happened to you, especially considering that you took a big step by planning a future with him, when this sort of a commitment is quite difficult for you.

As for your reaction and not kicking your partner out after hearing the news of his cheating on you - no one here is in your situation, so none of us can really judge what you've chosen to do or advise you on what is the best thing to do in your situation ... so no one here is going to think you are a loser for not kicking him out, but I do think its sad that your blood was shed over something he did wrong!

Whether you choose to forgive him or not and believe his declaration of love and that it was all a mistake, is totally your decision, and if you want to talk it over here some more, then that would be fine. I think the fact that he voluntarily confessed to what happened should go in his favour, and people do make genuine mistakes that they regret later on (been there done that!), but its just whether you can forgive him for this, and whether you will be able to eventually trust him again, which is the bigger issue.

I wish you all the best with this dilema ... this must be so painful for you! But please realise that now that you've found this website, that you dont have to deal with this alone, and that you can talk to us whever you need to.

I also hope that you dont mind that I've merged your 2 threads together, as the second thread was posted only a few hours after the first one and it seemed like they were related issue, and a posted update on the existing thread that you made earlier would help to give the other members here at RYL some more information with which to base their replies to your post. Hope that was okay.

Good luck with it seamonkey!