Oh goodness, what a nightmare.
Obviously I'm not privy to the full story but it sounds as though you've conducted yourself with great kindness and understanding. I think that if you'd continued to just written off her attitude as a consequence of her going through a difficult time then you would have become quite unhappy and that's no grounds for a friendship.
I don't want to completely condemn your friend, not having heard her side of things but she's certainly not coming up smelling of roses here and even if there's some justification somewhere in it all, it still isn't fair how she treated you because of it.
People are so complicated and can change and can do utterly astonishing things. Maybe one day your friend will sit you down and explain herself and make things right but maybe she won't and you'll never understand what on earth happened. Of course give yourself ample time to grieve this friendship but I think it's important to try to live with that unsettling feeling of not having the answers to those 'what-if's and start to accept the absence of proper closure. As Lemony Snicket wisely said "One cannot spend forever sitting and solving the mysteries of one's history".
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