Hey, sorry that you've not had a reply to this yet.
Love and attraction are weird old things and the pressure to do them 'normally' can be overwhelming. This isn't the same, but maybe links a bit - the pressure to conform to a heteronormative society and fancy boys was so much that I 'came out' as asexual before accepting that actually I liked girls! Once I allowed myself to experience attraction naturally and not how I thought I ought to, I eventually realised in my own time that I was occasionally attracted to men after all and finally settled on bisexual and then queer as my identity.
Not saying you are feeling any pressure to be attracted to a particular gender but I wonder if you're putting pressure on yourself to have the same level of attraction to people as others and that that is stifling your natural enjoyment of attraction? Maybe you're somewhere on the aromantic/asexual spectrum (or indeed maybe not!) but there's no 'right way or amount' to feel affection, both platonic and sexual.
I don't know if that helps at all. But I don't think there's anything missing from you and I don't think you should feel pressure to have more crushes or feel more love than you do.
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