There's also the whole radical acceptance that self harm is a useful coping skill for you (for now), so you can look at it from a harm management perspective instead, if you don't actually feel ready or don't want to stop. Do you actually want to stop? Do you feel ready to stop? It's okay if the answer is no.
As usual the whole, this isn't saying go self harm it's okay etc.. Just changing the perspective on it so it isn't as much of a shame and guilt thing. It's just a thing that you sometimes do to cope.
So harm management (if you don't know) would be stuff like making sure you have proper first aid supplies, using clean tools, knowing signs of infection and when you need to seek emergency or other medical attention, etc.. Then maybe alongside it working on trying to find other ways to deal with the emotions and trying some of the tools like the others have suggested.
Have you tried something like ice or hot/cold packs? Or a hot/cold shower or face rinse? It sounds like tactile sensation is important for you, so looking for other alternatives that incorporate those senses might also be worth exploring.
Sure self harm is not an ideal way to cope. But it's been helpful to you, and it sounds like it still is helpful to you. You've done what you've needed to survive, and there's nothing wrong with that.
Unsure what country you are in so this may not apply. But you could also look for therapist humans who practise from a harm management perspective as well, instead of ones who are into the whole abstinence only.
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