[cmbolton]

Don't be afraid to post if you need to. We are here to help you when you need it.

I am so sorry your mother reacted that way. It was completely wrong of her. It's hard when parents don't seem to care about what causes us to cut - rather they only yell at or punish us for doing it. I know my mom threatens hospitalization if she even suspects me.

One thing I've learned about others is that when they find out, it usually scares them. In all honesty, that is the natural human reaction to something like this. They become scared and they yell because they don't know what else to do. After the initial shock, I have found that they question what they did wrong to make us cut. They fear it is a reflection on them (which sometimes it is). They become angry and then very cold towards the cutter. They either snap at or put a guilt trip on the cutter. Of course then the cutter becomes upset and cuts some more.

I read about this (can't remember where) and then also heard while I was at the hospital, how my mother reacted after learning. This cycle, of course, is not set in stone, but I have found it has reflected what happened in my situation and others I have spoken to.

Perhaps speaking to your mom when you both calm down would work.

I hope you feel better and everything works out.

(((Hugs)))

Carlene