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Auror. · 15-04-2021, 05:01 PM

I guess I don't understand why her spending money on this would force her to lose her apartment and move back in with her parents. But if you've made your concerns known, then it's up to her to make her own choices. If she's 28, I don't think you should tell her parents. I think you need to respect her boundaries and ability to make choices, even if you don't necessarily agree with them. She's allowed to spend her money however she choses, and if she knows the potential risks and consequences (it sounds like from what you are describing that she does), then it's her choice to make.

Maybe you can just discuss with her a safety plan or ways to check in throughout the trip, so that if anything does go wrong she can still be safe and won't be stranded in Atlanta. That said, Atlanta is a pretty big city, so it should be fairly easy to find a hotel room or airbnb if she needs last minute.

This isn't me saying the situation sounds okay. This is more just saying that people have the right to make bad decisions, and you can't always stop them. You can't force someone to end a bad relationship. They have to see and learn for themselves, which can really suck when you care about someone. So all you can really do is be there to support them through it, good or bad.

15-04-2021, 05:01 PM	#3
Auror. Camden Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: USA	I guess I don't understand why her spending money on this would force her to lose her apartment and move back in with her parents. But if you've made your concerns known, then it's up to her to make her own choices. If she's 28, I don't think you should tell her parents. I think you need to respect her boundaries and ability to make choices, even if you don't necessarily agree with them. She's allowed to spend her money however she choses, and if she knows the potential risks and consequences (it sounds like from what you are describing that she does), then it's her choice to make. Maybe you can just discuss with her a safety plan or ways to check in throughout the trip, so that if anything does go wrong she can still be safe and won't be stranded in Atlanta. That said, Atlanta is a pretty big city, so it should be fairly easy to find a hotel room or airbnb if she needs last minute. This isn't me saying the situation sounds okay. This is more just saying that people have the right to make bad decisions, and you can't always stop them. You can't force someone to end a bad relationship. They have to see and learn for themselves, which can really suck when you care about someone. So all you can really do is be there to support them through it, good or bad.
Auror. Camden Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: USA	Please do not give me virtual hugs unless you are only using the hug function on threads. Thanks. You can't always keep it separate. This is happening, this is part of you.