Hmmm. Have you ever tried cognitive defusion in relation to the good stuff? If that's not something you're familiar with I suggest it around here a lot. But like, you could use that to be like, even if you don't fully agree with the good stuff, you also don't have to fully agree with the negative either. Or have it be seen as a judgement even. Sometimes removing the judgement as these are good things about me versus bad things can be useful in terms of compassion.
Like, these are things about me. Do they serve me well? Do they line up with my values?
So if you're given a compliment like... "you're a kind person" it's not so much as saying, oh that is a nice thing I am uncomfortable. It's... hey being a kind person is something that is important to me and in line with how I want to live my life. So that is helpful feedback.
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