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one_step_closer · 04-02-2019, 04:28 PM

I'm sorry things have been difficult for you to cope with recently. Very well done with the 3 years self harm free, that is so amazing and shows your strength. Sometimes things can feel like too much to cope with and you might go back to old coping mechanisms but that doesn't mean you have failed at anything. Say you have been self harm free for exactly 3 years (just as an example) then that's about 1095 days you've been free and just one day you self harmed. That's really good going. It doesn't have to be about starting again from day 1.

I know it can be hard to reach out to people but I'm sure they would rather try and support you than have you turn to self harm. If you feel like you can't talk to someone close to you is there maybe a helpline you could try? It sounds like you really want to get back on track and that is a great start. I think you are strong enough. What are the things that are difficult for you just now, and are there ways that they could be easier to manage or sorted out?

04-02-2019, 04:28 PM	#2
one_step_closer The Shadow of the Day Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Scotland	I'm sorry things have been difficult for you to cope with recently. Very well done with the 3 years self harm free, that is so amazing and shows your strength. Sometimes things can feel like too much to cope with and you might go back to old coping mechanisms but that doesn't mean you have failed at anything. Say you have been self harm free for exactly 3 years (just as an example) then that's about 1095 days you've been free and just one day you self harmed. That's really good going. It doesn't have to be about starting again from day 1. I know it can be hard to reach out to people but I'm sure they would rather try and support you than have you turn to self harm. If you feel like you can't talk to someone close to you is there maybe a helpline you could try? It sounds like you really want to get back on track and that is a great start. I think you are strong enough. What are the things that are difficult for you just now, and are there ways that they could be easier to manage or sorted out?
	I put it down on paper and then the ghost does not ache so much. Don't try to calm the storm, calm yourself, the storm will pass. You didn't come this far just to come this far.