Hey first of all *hugs*. I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time at the mo. I have to say I agree with everyone else. It's probably the best thing to tell him, he's no reason to hate you at all. It won't ruin the relationship he has now, but you shouldn't have to do this alone. You've decided on the best course of action for you, which must have been difficult in the first place, so you deserve some support. He might be a little shocked, but why on earth would he hate you?
I think telling him afterward would be a bad idea. I know it will be hard, but if you're still mates, then he should be there for you. I really hope it works out for you x
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