No, I don't think it's bad to be proud of your work and I don't think anyone was suggesting it is. But there's a difference between having a healthy level of pride in your work and becoming obsessive.
I actually don't think it's particularly abnormal to stay late at work to chat, either. I do sometimes, as do my colleagues. But it's because we get on well and because we do a lot of lone working, so it's nice to actually see each other sometimes! But again, it's about having the right balance. It's an occasional thing, not all the time. It's not one-sided. And I wouldn't do it if they were actually busy or if they didn't appear to want the company. I wouldn't go in on my days off unless it was for a specific reason (like the other week I popped in to sign a colleague's leaving card).
I'm glad you're going to be seeing a counsellor and I really hope you find it helpful.
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