Originally Posted by
Horizon
That therapist's response is so completely irresponsible and unprofessional, as well as incorrect. I am very sorry he made you tell him about that (also the incorrect way to go about approaching a topic such as this) and then responded in that invalidating manner.
What happened to you is something you did not want, could not consent to, and is clearly something that effects you to this day.
Your feelings regarding what happened when you were younger (I know someone already mentioned cocsa) are completely valid and your reaction to the absurd actions of that therapist are also valid.
I think it's wonderful you were able to talk to a friend about it who has experienced similar. Should you feel like resuming therapy (with a different therapist) there are good ones out there trained in this who will not force information out of you or then dismiss your experiences.
Sorry for the late reply, I'm glad others can see how his response was invalidating and it wasn't just me overreacting. Thank you for your reply, I really appreciate it. I have continued therapy and spoke briefly to my current therapist about what happened and she was a lot more supportive and less dismissive. It hasn't really been discussed further or dealt with really but it's better than how my previous therapist dealt with it, considering he forced me to tell him, dismissed it and removed me from his care a week later.