Doing nice things for yourself is also nurturing your responsible self as you're providing balance, so more likely overall to be productive and not stagnate. That's one way I tell myself thats helped somewhat deflate the worry of being arrogant. It reframes it so instead I'm being practical and thinking of the bigger picture of how that action helps me in my overall functioning, everyone needs and deserves to recharge and rest. It's hard and energy sapping living life in itself, fighting against your own self I find would be just like a double kick in the teeth. Like tiptoes said, I find (continually if needed until it starts to stick and become habit) neutralising and focusing being compassionate towards your self helpful. You are your own best advocate (ergo compassion), adopting this attitude counters feeling like my own worst enemy. I also tell myself that doing nice things has a knock on effect in all areas of my life so helps me try to be the best version of me I can be, which I have a duty and responsibility to be (in a work sense). Interacting with others with more self esteem is enjoyable for both you and them I find because the worry has melted away and just pure connection and interaction can happen more smoothly with more flow :)
One last thought, you deserve to occupy as much space as every other person in that room/environment. Don't let your brain bully you into thinking you don't
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