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ShootingForTheStars · 26-08-2017, 07:40 PM

Okay, when I was 9/10, a female friend of mine of the same age (I'm also biologically female and did not know I was trans at the time- idk if that's relevant), wanted to do sexual things and I did not want to. I remember clearly saying no and not wanting to. She proceeded to have me do things (not intercourse) and I felt horrible and still remember how I felt physically and mentally. I had never ever spoken about it to anyone, no friends or family because I was embarrassed and young (I'm 17 now) and I pushed it far back into my mind. I kinda just come to terms that I was young, she was young too and I had no right to feel bad about the situation.
However, the other week my therapist (who has now removed me from his 'care') basically made me tell him about this situation. He pretty much told me that it wasn't any type of abuse or anything because 'kids experiment', the girl who did it didn't go on to do it to others (to my knowledge?) and we were both 9/10, so I couldn't 'technically' consent.
Since talking about it to him, it's brought a lot of **** up for me and I just want to see what other people think. I never saw it as abuse, but I finally opened up to a friend the other day about it who has had a similar experience and said regardless of mine or her age and such, it happened when I didn't want it to.

26-08-2017, 07:40 PM	#1
ShootingForTheStars Join Date: Oct 2015 Location: UK I am currently:	is this sexual abuse/assault? Okay, when I was 9/10, a female friend of mine of the same age (I'm also biologically female and did not know I was trans at the time- idk if that's relevant), wanted to do sexual things and I did not want to. I remember clearly saying no and not wanting to. She proceeded to have me do things (not intercourse) and I felt horrible and still remember how I felt physically and mentally. I had never ever spoken about it to anyone, no friends or family because I was embarrassed and young (I'm 17 now) and I pushed it far back into my mind. I kinda just come to terms that I was young, she was young too and I had no right to feel bad about the situation. However, the other week my therapist (who has now removed me from his 'care') basically made me tell him about this situation. He pretty much told me that it wasn't any type of abuse or anything because 'kids experiment', the girl who did it didn't go on to do it to others (to my knowledge?) and we were both 9/10, so I couldn't 'technically' consent. Since talking about it to him, it's brought a lot of **** up for me and I just want to see what other people think. I never saw it as abuse, but I finally opened up to a friend the other day about it who has had a similar experience and said regardless of mine or her age and such, it happened when I didn't want it to.