Thank you for the reply. I will explain my situation better
a. One to one case where i am with only one other person. If i know he is a very social kind of person who can initiate a communication and keep me engaged by asking questions i am very comfortable and ok with it. But the problem comes when i think he is not talking much i feel the pressure to speak something and keep the conversation else i feel i am boring him. It puts lot of pressure on me and i become really weak and as time goes i like to escape from that situation.
b. Second situation i develop some kind of feeling of fear with some people where i cannot look at their face and speak directly. I always hope one third person is there when i am with these kind of people so that it reduces pressure on me. For example i develop this situation with few of my colleagues for no reason and they are very nice persons they speak very nicely with me but i have developed this kind of fear and it has become really really uncomfortable for me as i have to meet him day in and day out at the work place. And he is feeling uncomfortable and trying to avoid interacting with me. And i can't explain the situation where i need to interct with my manager one to one. I feel like crying and they can easily figure out the fear on my face. They in turn reduce interacting with me.
c. When in a party or group if i am with any of these persons my life will be misery i try avoiding them by choosing to sit at a place distance from them. I basically try to take a place where i am with a very comfortable person. But that is not always possible. I cannot initiate a communication. I do not know what to speak in a group.
d. Now it is started affecting my family life. I have almost become a boring person. So i spend most of the time working and avoiding social situations.
Sorry for the lengthy mail. But i need to come out of it. Please help me.
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