This is maybe a bit of a pat answer, but I just want to try and welcome you to focus on how these things affect you, personally, in terms of focusing more on your own individual experiences than a generic list of symptoms. (I don't mean not to ask people about their experiences if it helps you understand better, I more mean to not worry too much about what's written in the manuals, unless you find it helpful).
I guess (as another person who has BPD as, I *think* my current diagnosis) I've found that, as a diagnosis, unhelpful for me. In terms of my treatment, I don't think I feel I've been stigmatised against (my team don't mention the BPD at all, to me, and haven't for years, probably - I don't know if that's a treatment approach they use for everyone, or not, but I like it!) because of my diagnosis. I do think, though, that there's a societal stigma around the diagnosis (even amongst other people with lived experience of mental health issues) and it's something that I've internalised, over the years, and has negatively affected my view of myself as a person.
That was all a bit long-winded, I'm sorry. I've had other diagnoses over the years, but a lot of the treatment has been focused around the BPD and I think that might be what my current diagnosis is in my file, but I don't know. I think, for me, I have found my recovery has occurred more naturally with an approach that deals more positively with my personal and individual experience of the life I lead and wish to lead.
It's okay to feel however you feel. It's okay not to know how you feel. How you feel will probably change over time, in different ways, as you gain different information and find what works and doesn't work for you.
TL;DR: A diagnosis tells part of your story, my advice is to allow your story to be your individual one.
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