I don't think age is majorly relevant, anyone of any age can be a sexual predator. And there are couples with big age gaps that have wonderful relationships.
But whoever you are with you should NEVER feel coerced into sex. You should both individually want to have sex and feel able to say NO and respect each others decision on that. We all have a different sex drive, so there should be times when one party declines.
When you talk of feeling coerced what do you mean by that (if you feel able to talk about it)?
What about him concerns you about how he is with younger girls? (again only answer if you feel okay to)
I think it's brill you've manage to recognise that this isn't a healthy relationship, although I expect that must really hurt and be hard to come to terms with and accept. I hope that your counsellor can help you through all these difficult feelings.
Try and keep in mind that you don't have to be a child to be abused. Sometimes it's not clearly obvious you even are till you are right in the midst of it. Some people who abuse others can be really manipulative and clever, and make you feel as though it's your fault when really it's not at all. That is how they can keep the abuse going and keep on holding power over you, by crippling your self-esteem.
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