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blondiebear · 06-12-2007, 01:16 AM

I've been married for 18 years. Before we married my husband and I decided that we would not have children. We both suffer from clinical depression. I grew up in an awful household and with violence. By the time I was married I'd raised my sister and my mom and was tired of it.

Before we married we talked a lot to make sure we were well suited before we married, same political, financial and religeous outlook and the mutual decision to not have kids. That may sound cold hearted but we don't have arguments over those things. We do argue over other things...

I'm 41. Sometimes I've heard my biological clock ticking. Then I see some out of control little terror. Or hear the sound of an exhausted baby crying while his mom runs one last errand. I just don't have the resources. I know there are lots of people who see a baby and see potential and innocence. I see 20 years of 24 hour/day care.

I'm happy with the choice my husband and I made.

Sorry about the essay.

06-12-2007, 01:16 AM	#5
blondiebear Bringing back the lost art of Sewing Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: California Confusion I am currently:	I've been married for 18 years. Before we married my husband and I decided that we would not have children. We both suffer from clinical depression. I grew up in an awful household and with violence. By the time I was married I'd raised my sister and my mom and was tired of it. Before we married we talked a lot to make sure we were well suited before we married, same political, financial and religeous outlook and the mutual decision to not have kids. That may sound cold hearted but we don't have arguments over those things. We do argue over other things... I'm 41. Sometimes I've heard my biological clock ticking. Then I see some out of control little terror. Or hear the sound of an exhausted baby crying while his mom runs one last errand. I just don't have the resources. I know there are lots of people who see a baby and see potential and innocence. I see 20 years of 24 hour/day care. I'm happy with the choice my husband and I made. Sorry about the essay.
	My husband is my best friend. In forgiving others, we are not exonerating them. They may not deserve exoneration. Rather, in forgiving others we are giving up our anger over the fact that what happened is not what "should" have happened or that our life is not the way it "should" have been.