You don't have to live like that, of course! It does sound like you are surrounded by the wrong people though, so you need to find a better people to surround yourself with, and may be a better job.
Do you want to share more about those "conspiracies"? Might be easier to help if we know what it's about. In any case I have been in a very bullying-like situation at work and that was at a tough job that had almost no redeeming qualities, except for having a nice pay(for a student such as me at the time) and which was paid regularly and even with bonuses at a time when most such jobs weren't...
In any case I really struggled at the time. I hated the place and the people and the job. Thankfully I knew it was temporary and that got me through- it was a 6 months thing between uni. And then I would return to studying, my friends(in different city) and my goals. The way I got through it was by reminding myself the end goal(returning to university-that job was partially paying for that) by looking pictures of good times I had there, and making my schedule for the coming semester and so on- and I would do those things daily.
I also met with my best friend at the time as often as I could in the evenings(2-3 times a week).
I have also been in not so nice situation in high school, which was worse because it was 4 years...But again, my thing to do is concentrate on getting out of the situation and make a concrete plan of when and how you will do that. And go towards something(don't just concentrate on getting out but getting out for something you want).
For example if your social life isn't good right now(problems at work, problems with friends) have you thought of moving to a different city? That can give you a chance for a fully blank slate. It will take a while of course, but it can be motivating, especially if you find a city that you really want to be in, or a job that you would really want to have. And then immerse yourself into it- set a goal for a year from now for example, and every day until then, spend figuring out what your new life there can be like. Save money for the moving expenses, look at apartment and job listings, plan a different wardrobe even, think of what transport you'll use there, get a city map and things like that. You can do that for any goal- you don't have to move, but considering your job situation it sounds like you would benefit at least from change of job. Find your own goal or fresh start, set timeline towards it, and immerse yourself in preparation for it. Getting through something you don't like is much easier when you are going towards something you do like.
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