you could also spend time when you're struggling looking up the sort of treats you'd be aiming for to keep you focused!
I have already listed my treats lol. The higher it gets the bigger the gap so the bigger the prize. My first treat is a lindt bar, so I'm not buying lindt chocolate until I've earned it.
Perhaps you should give yourself points for if you are able to limit destructive behaviours? Or maybe do another activity outside of points, for example if you SH or go to A&E, you could make yourself write about it in a journal; what happened, what you were feeling, how other people reacted, things you could do next time that might improve the outcome?
I think this is a better idea. I think points for asking for help would be a good one to add, and that can be 5 points as well and go under the "phoning people" thing.
I think the reflection process you described is good though too. I will write that down thanks.
(though obviously do not self harm just so you can get points by going to A&E!).
Imaginelol.