[nowhereman]

Sounds familiar. You need to stand up to these people, because YOU matter too. They make you feel you don't so you will feel you're "lucky" to even have them. And they know exactly how to suck you back in. When you stand up to them they will soon disappear, because they'll know they can't manipulate or put you down you anymore. Be prepared to be called all sorts for "daring" to stand up for yourself, but just ignore all of that. And don't feel guilty either, what happens to them is not your responsibility. They won't worry about you. I don't say that either to be mean, but they'll only ever care about themselves, whereas the fact that you are still there for them proves you are a caring person. That's what they will play on but in the end you have to think of yourself and your own well being. You can still be a kind caring person, but I hope you will find some friends who will appreciate that and do the same back. Cos friendship should work both ways. I think I had more to say but I forget now. But to reiterate, YOU matter too. If a "friendship" makes you feel that you don't, then it's not a healthy friendship. Stand up to them, cut them off, block them, whatever you have to do. They won't make it easy for you but it will be worth it in the end. Don't even read their messages in case you get sucked back in or have to hear more abuse. You're not obligated to anyone. I may sound a bit abrupt or harsh here, but it's people like this who have made me that way, and you need to be firm, even if your heart and kindness is screaming against it. It will never be enough, they'll want more and more and insult you if you ever try to ask for anything back. Like vampires. Good luck to you.

Just want to say too, I think some people may do this because it's all they've ever known, maybe they were treated that way too and had x, y and z happen to them. And that's sad but it's still not your responsibility. You're not (I assume) trained and qualified to deal with that, and you trying to deal with such heavy issues 24/7 on top of your own, it won't end well.