Originally Posted by
Lone Star
So to answer your question... yes, it does help when someone you can trust sees the scars.
Well, obviously my husband has seen all my scars. We started dating 12 years ago, so I had already begun and I was honest from the beginning. But he just sees it as one part of me, and even though I know he hates that part, he loves the other parts. I do feel terrible shame when he sees them, especially the words, but I have the knowledge that he loves me to balance it out. Does that make sense???
My therapist doesn't love me (which is good- he's not supposed to), but that means that I won't have anything to balance out the shame. So I'm afraid I'm just going to sit there, looking at my scars, thinking they're ugly, and know that someone else is looking at them also thinking how ugly they are, and the shame will be unbearable.